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Life is full of day-to-day no’s.  Some cause smiles, others… tears.  Some produce growth, others stunt growth.  Each one, when accepted as the foundation for reflective thought, inspired motivation and courageous enlightenment, can provide meaningful beacons of light on the pathway to life discovery.  However, when something is deeply desired, a “no,” can knock one down and keep him wallowing on the ground for many years. But remember. . . the same force that knocks a person down, is also the one that lifts him up.  Keep the force but, change the tenor of thought.

The responses below are “true life experiences,” only the names have been changed.   Large foundations and companies tend to shun struggling non-profits who do not have glowing financial records, strong Boards and budgets under $50,000.  One, located in Novi, MI, told a non-profit that it could not be doing much in the community if the budget did not exceed $50,000.  Wow!  What about volunteers?

This magazine gives a list of foundations and companies that have declined support to a small non-profit named Educational Arts Society, based in Detroit.  Many require checking with them via phone before even applying.  The rejection letters are authentic…only the names of companies, foundations and individuals have been changed.



Dear Dr. Speak the Truth,

Thank you for considering Made-Up Company as a sponsor for Community and Business Alliance Program. We carefully considered your request and, unfortunately, we are not able to provide a corporate contribution at this time. There are so many great programs in the community; however, we are not able to provide support for all of them.

As you know, MUN is committed to creating a healthier Michigan. One of the ways we do that is by supporting programs and partnerships throughout the state that encourage healthy, active lifestyles. If you are interested in learning more about our community programs and partnerships, please visit

We applaud the work you are doing in the community and wish you well on your program endeavors. You are making a difference!


Made-Up Name
Director, Community Responsibility
ABC Company



Hello Ms. Made-Up Name,

Thank you for your response.

We have received many responses like yours, untruths … if you applaud us for our work why are you refusing to give us one red penny?  That makes it difficult for me to believe what you are saying.  At any rate, we are and will succeed, even with responses that are words that seem to say the truth but, are really not the truth.  The truth is, in spite of the humanitarian good we are doing, because we do not fit your “financial model,” you are refusing to help us.

I am not angry, just honest.  How does it feel to write a bunch of untruths to people sincerely asking for your help?  You know … we live in a society where “telling the truth” is a novelty.

I am a very healthy person and am delighted I do not have to use your insurance, even though I have it.

Please don’t think I am weird because I choose to speak with honesty and integrity.  Thanks again for responding … some do not even do that.


Respectfully yours,

Dr. Speak the Truth



List of Foundations and Companies

 Blue Cross Blue Shield     Macy’s     Marshall’s   Hagopian   Chili’s    

Skillman Foundation     Joyce Foundation   Edmund F. and Virginia B. Ball Foundation      John R. & M. Margrite Davis Foundation     Hastings Mutual Insurance Company Charitable Foundation     J.C. Charitable Trust Fund     Bartsch Memorial Trust