Courtesy of Bakir Custovic


Self discovery is an interesting process. It means diving headfirst into a view of the inner self–examining, analyzing and responding to the “Whys” and “Hows” of thoughts, behaviors and actions. Things most public and private institutions do not teach, because they have not experienced them, themselves. The core of this analysis is spiritual awakening. Typically, ministers do not include this in their sermons. How does one begin such a process? Three words: Faith, Dedication and Acceptance.


Faith is a word tossed around by many, some with understanding, others with little or no understanding. A simplistic meaning of faith is “complete trust in something or someone.” How many of us have that? Not many. Why not? Because of the word “complete.” That word does not leave room for words like almost, nearly or not quite. It says “all or nothing.” When one demonstrates complete trust, it means unwavering trust no matter the circumstances . . . leaving most of us lacking faith.

Using the biblical definition of faith, one’s faith is “the substance of things hoped for and the evidence of things not seen” (Hebrews 11: 1). In this instance, faith is the awareness that what you are searching for, you already have. It’s the substance of things hoped for, and the mental evidence that it’s present. An example maybe, that during CONVID 19, you have absolutely no food in the house to feed yourself and kids, but instead of being fearful and distraught, you believe food will come from somewhere, because the God you serve, always provides for his children. Therefore, your mood is peaceful and expectant.


Dedication is commitment, loyalty and “fixedness.” It’s proving to oneself that “If I stay focused and task oriented, I can do this.” When doubt and fear creep into thought, and seek to discourage or paint a bleak picture, the person continues to stay on course and move ahead with the plan. Deviation only occurs when it compliments the commitment, not by turning away from the commitment.


Acceptance is a state of mental contentment–thought free of anxiety and wonderment. It says, “I’m ok, everything is fine.” It’s satisfaction with self and the mental place you are resting. How many times do we fail to accept we have arrived at the place we should be? Denial is detriment to this success. It is the little thoughts of mistrust, dismay, disapproval and failure. Reversing those thoughts bring acknowledgment, satisfaction and delight. Acceptance gives the assurance that things are good, there’s no need to search further . . . just enjoy the place I am right now.

Having these three mental processes operating in thought, lead to positive results–results that do not promote domestic violence, disobedience to the welfare of self and others, anger, resentment and loneliness. Now, more than ever, we need to seek this state of mind on a daily basis. CONVID 19 emphasizes that “these are the times that try men’s souls.” How do you compare? What is your state of mind? Have you examined yourself instead of blaming others? Just maybe…it’s a good time to start!

Make Sure You Mean It